Tomorrow Cometh

by doodaddy on November 3, 2009

I saw the future yesterday, and it was this:

Share care.

The friends down the block came over for an hour because mom had a quick school meeting. And there was no (well, not very much) drama.

The kids are getting older — mine’s a solid three-and-a-halfer, the neighbors are 3 and 5. So sure, there’s snatching and hoarding (the long-suffering 5-year old has pretty much given up: if her brother wants something, she just hands it over wordlessly).

But mostly it was eeeeeasy. Last year, same kids, I would have been running around, inventing activities and smashing allegiances (what is it about having an odd number of preschoolers that turns everything into ostracizapalooza?).

I know you’re thinking, well, no shit, of course neighbors trade kid-sitting with each other — it’s the only way to stay sane. And I’ve done that a little bit, but not much. But setting up an exchange is not as automatic for stay-at-home dads as for moms. I’ve seen women plan playdates within ten minutes of knowing each other.

But the kids are getting more independent, more people are getting to know me (thanks be to the flying spaghetti monster!), and we watch each other’s kids.

At this rate, who knows? Maybe we’ll manage to have a babysitter by the time the kids are in middle school!

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Bryan November 3, 2009 at 11:04 am

I have the same issues over this direction. Can be frustrating and make you feel trapped at times. Definitely one of the downsides of the stay-at-home dad gig… Lots of other great perks though!

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doodaddy November 3, 2009 at 11:07 am

@Bryan – I know, huh? My favorite perk is all the half-eaten grilled cheese sandwiches I can eat!

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People in the Sun November 3, 2009 at 11:58 am

I know I’m not ready to look after other kids. I went to the Science Museum with another father, and when he went outside to put some coins in the meter, of course our two kids started running in different directions. He was close to finding me giving up, crying somewhere in the corner.

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doodaddy November 3, 2009 at 12:01 pm

@People in the Sun – Well, it’s a matter of choosing the right place. Plus — how did he break away from his chains? Our girls haven’t figured out how to break the locks yet.

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People in the Sun November 3, 2009 at 10:46 pm

I left them next to the How to Chew Metal exhibition.

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