I was taking pictures and therefore paying no attention at all. Sometimes the viewfinder becomes a magic tunnel from which I manage not to notice anything I’m looking at — all Boo’s misdeeds become just another pose.
Mikey Mike was entertaining both Boo and Emme with Chip and Dale dancing and I was behind the camera. Slowly, it settled onto my sloth-like consciousness that Boo had just taken Emme down in some sort of wrestling move. In her zeal to give Mike his tip, I suppose. (He’s a great dancer.)
So I pulled Boo aside and told her that tackling isn’t acceptable (unless invited: cf. “Buddy Boy“). I made her say “I’m sorry” although the apology, given that it was delivered to a tree, probably didn’t make Emme feel too much better. I even promised Boo a reward if she could make it through the rest of the day without pushing.
So we learn together to navigate the gray area between “wrestling” and “mugging.”
At least I didn’t get emotionally involved today, praise be to Mike and Emme’s good nature but also the chafing of experience. Today was the first bullying moment when I just did my parenting business without feeling embarrassed by Boo’s behavior. That felt like a success, anyway.
Now, all I need is a good euphemism for “bully,” since when you repeat something too many times it makes it a reality. (Like parents who say “she won’t eat mushrooms.”) Any ideas? So far, what’s come to mind is “peppery” or “boisterous.”
Or maybe “despotic.”