Comments on: Don’t say "Is she OK?": Tips for tippy toddlers

By: doodaddy

doodaddy — Mon, 30 Jun 2008 07:06:27 +0000

“Rub it” — that’s a good one! What I hate is when *other* parents get *my* kid all upset by acting like ninnies.

By: Dawn

Dawn — Thu, 26 Jun 2008 18:18:01 +0000

Five years doing daycare with the under-two crowd & the cardinal rule was you never ever make a big deal about a tumble. You could tell while ones required immediate attention. We had a standard smiling reply of “rub it!” in a carefree sounding voice and the kids really responded to that, most of them doing it all on their own as we secretly assessed the situation out of the corners of our eyes.

Oh & I am totally the same way with my tolerance (read: lack thereof) when it comes to daycare providers. All my friends who need to utilize such services always ask me my thoughts on XYZ situation, knowing that I fully expect anyone else who performs this immesely important dutyshould be able to do it to the same standards I did.

By: doodaddy

doodaddy — Wed, 25 Jun 2008 00:24:25 +0000

Yeah, I’m pretty much the same. I actually don’t even get to “Are you OK?” because I figure if the answer is “no,” Boo will tell me… I do comment on the fall, though. I usually say something like “Oooh, nice dismount!” or “That looked dramatic!” You know — to acknowledge that I’m not just ignoring her.

By: Michele Shores

Michele Shores — Tue, 24 Jun 2008 16:33:05 +0000

My youngest daughter usually just says “ouch”. and goes on unless it is really bad then she will cry and come running to us. My mom is worst about asking a hundred times if you are ok so my older one is more of a drama queen because of it. I try not to play it up so much just are you ok? If she says yes we move on. What is interesting is Sarah is a drama queen when it comes to injuries but has a very high tolerance to pain when it comes to sickness. Most of the time I don’t know she is ill until she is running a high fever and we go to the doctor and she has strep or an ear infection. I have no tolerance for bad teachers either. Sarah has had a gymnastics teacher I did not care for last summer and a ballet teacher I did not care for who totally had an about face the last class when she realized we were taping the class. She was all over Sarah, “no honey do it this way and so sweet.” How about the teacher who called a kindergartener names in front of the class and still gets to keep her job because she has tenure.

By: doodaddy

doodaddy — Tue, 24 Jun 2008 16:01:33 +0000

It’s funny how the ones that look (and sound) the worst never are, and vice versa.

Nice of the moms to let you handle it, though. I don’t usually get that consideration, except from people who know me.

By: Backpacking Dad

Backpacking Dad — Tue, 24 Jun 2008 15:32:54 +0000

My daughter fell off a couch in front of an entire circle of moms. They are all pretty used to her being the adventurous one, but this was a little shocking (hollow sounding floor) and I had been picking up another kid who was getting into something, so my back was turned.

I could feel all of their eyes on me as I picked my wailing daughter up off the floor. But I could tell she wasn’t hurt, just surprised (and she’s had worse :} ), so I just picked her up and held her slightly in front of me and stared at her until she calmed down. No shushing or weeping apologies. Just letting her, and all of the moms, know that it was no big deal.

By: doodaddy

doodaddy — Tue, 24 Jun 2008 14:20:05 +0000

I’ve been trying to avoid carrying a copy around with me for that very purpose.

So I just made it into a t-shirt.

By: Xbox4NappyRash

Xbox4NappyRash — Tue, 24 Jun 2008 14:01:14 +0000

I can visualise you storming into the head masters office and slamming your magazine cover down on his desk….

‘Do you not know who I am!’….