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By: Doodaddy » That’s 14 in Blog Years: The Good, the Bad, and the Freaky

Doodaddy » That’s 14 in Blog Years: The Good, the Bad, and the Freaky — Thu, 25 Sep 2008 23:32:19 +0000

[...] spend an hour — on the off chance that I ever had a free hour — just browsing the old stories. And some decades-off day, when I have more free time than I’d like, I plan to [...]

By: doodaddy

doodaddy — Mon, 12 May 2008 22:06:46 +0000

Thanks! I never wanted to play football, but I always wanted to be the coach, drawing all those cool lines. I also liked Venn diagrams — I would make them for fun.

Freak, I know.

By: creative-type dad

creative-type dad — Mon, 12 May 2008 22:00:46 +0000

Wow, it’s like Jr. Hight all over again.

By the way – nice diagram

By: doodaddy

doodaddy — Mon, 12 May 2008 21:47:18 +0000

I totally get that you make certain invitations to your own group only — I do the same thing, natch! — but right in front of other people? That’s tacky no matter what my gender… at least, y’know, wait until I step away or something!

By: Erin

Erin — Mon, 12 May 2008 20:00:51 +0000

Hi – new reader here! I’m sorry this happened to you – but I really don’t think it’s because you’re a dad. I’ve been on both the inside and the outside of these mom’s groups, and the dynamics are sometimes very complex! I think that, after introductions and small talk were exchanged, it’s unrealistic to expect these busy moms not to continue to discuss and schedule events as they normally would just because you happened to be there. You could have been a little more assertive (“Hey, we love Beach X!”), or privately asked Mom A later if you could tag along. But mostly, I think you could recognize that for most of the moms, you were likely seen there as “Mom A’s friend” and they wouldn’t presume to invite you outright without clearing it with her first. Weird, I know.

I hope you will forgive the group this one-time snub and try and get to know some of them. I bet you will find that though they may sometimes forget their manners, they are actually very nice and willing to make new friends!

By: Jessica

Jessica — Fri, 09 May 2008 21:00:58 +0000

I’m sorry. You are totally right in that they were probably not meaning anything ill toward you they just didn’t get it.

I bet if they were to read this they would feel like total heals when the light bulb came on.

By: Kelley

Kelley — Wed, 07 May 2008 10:26:54 +0000

You just experienced high school girls. Some of those biatches never EVER grow up.

By: doodaddy

doodaddy — Wed, 07 May 2008 05:36:37 +0000

Hee, hee. Northern California beach days are usually long-sleeved affairs. Apart from open-toed shoes, I wouldn’t be witness to any forbidden flesh! Besides, that wouldn’t make it OK to talk about in front of me… Interesting thought, though!

By: Vini

Vini — Wed, 07 May 2008 05:28:55 +0000

Did you ever think that they may be self conscious about their body especially in front of a man. If this is a beach/bikini thing then they most likeley don’t want a guy checking out their mommy bodies. They probably are self conscious in front of their own men. So, don’t take it too personal.

By: doodaddy

doodaddy — Wed, 07 May 2008 04:04:23 +0000

The weird thing is, I don’t think it was an intentional snub… they were just not really thinking of me as being there.

Which maybe is worse…