In Honor of Freedom to Marry Week: Something Old

by doodaddy on February 12, 2008


Something old: My great-great aunt’s fox fur.
Don’t worry, we’re crunchy granola.
Just ironic a little.

Marriage didn’t really enter my head until our gay friends started getting married.

Around Valentine’s Day four years ago, San Francisco started issuing marriage licenses to couples regardless of gender, and like most people who live around here, I got to see bunches of friends taking a plunge that they would have long before, had it been legal.

It hit me personally, because at the time, although I’d been a long time with Working Mom (then Working Girlfriend, but that just sounds wrong), I just couldn’t see getting married: the institution of marriage was so fraught, and old-fashioned, and a political hot potato.

But when my friends finally could marry, I started to see marriage as just another formal name for a lifelong commitment. Among our straight and gay friends, some have entered into marriages, some had commitment ceremonies, and some have chosen to keep their relationship decisions private. That’s the deal — for a few months, it seemed like everyone in San Francisco was going to have the freedom to make that same, personal choice, regardless of gender. So my wife and I got married.

A few months later, the courts invalidated the San Francisco marriage licenses. The state has told our friends that not only do they not get the thousands of rights and tax benefits my wife and I do, they can’t even call themselves "married."

So, to support Freedom to Marry Week, I’m following the lead of  Lesbian Dad (who got it from The Other Mother) and posting on "something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue."

Sorry for the long introduction: the rest won’t be so wordy!

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{ 5 comments… read them below or add one }

jessicab February 13, 2008 at 6:03 am

Cute pictures. Way to support your friends.


Miss Britt February 13, 2008 at 6:50 am

I actually had no idea it was Freedom To Marry Week. Thanks for bringing it to my attention!

(Wait… is it this week? next week? Just in San Francisco??)


doodaddy February 13, 2008 at 10:00 am

Thanks! What’s cuter than a toddler in fox fur?

It’s this week, and I it’s nationwide at least — has all the 411…


Polly February 13, 2008 at 10:39 am

Go team love!
Solidarity forever!
And so on!


doodaddy February 13, 2008 at 9:58 pm

Thanks, everyone! And especial thanks to Polly & Robin for learnin’ me about the festivities.


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