Oh my, I have made a horrible mistake

by doodaddy on November 27, 2007

I was up at the new house last night desperately painting cabinets when one of our neighbors-to-be wandered in. She seems lovely, but my first impression, sorry to say, was that she’s a little unworldly. I explained that I am a stay-at-home dad and she seemed not to quite get what that meant.

"So does your wife stay home with the baby?" she replied.

"Nope, just me!" I repeated. She looked a little strained, or maybe she was confused. A couple of minutes later, she asked me what I do for a living. My annoyance crept out a little; I let my speech slip into italics. "Well, before I was a stay-at-home dad, I was a naturalist."

Finally, I think she got it. And I started getting something else: jittery about the move, now inevitable.

  • We’re moving from a central, urban area to the highest hill in San Francisco, and as you know, when it comes to hills this city’s no slouch.
  • We’re moving from a diverse area where multiple social strata and lifestyles intersect to a quiet, socially conservative neighborhood with two dominant ethnicities.
  • We’re moving from a lively neighborhood where we’re two blocks from an independent grocery and five from a killer playground to a sleepy bedroom street that’s twenty steep minutes from a chain supermarket and only a little less to a playground.

There are tradeoffs, of course. We’ll have a little yard, and a garden for vegetables, and blackberries and a lemon tree. And hiking trails. And buses nearby. And perhaps, like every other time I’ve moved, I’ll get to know and love (and maybe even improve) the neighborhood.

But will Boobaby be lonely? Will I?

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Jared November 28, 2007 at 7:24 am

I grew up out in the country and moved to the city to go to college. There are pros and cons to each environment, but I think it is really what you make of it! I would love to move back out to the country to be able to spend my time enjoying life and my family instead of waiting in traffic. 😉 IMO, sometimes convenience of having things close to you isn’t always what it is cracked up to be…


Jeremy Adam Smith November 29, 2007 at 4:17 pm

You’re still in SF–on Twin Peaks, I assume? Don’t worry about it. Coolness still surrounds you.

I’ll tell you, I was tremendously anxious when we moved (still childless) from the bottom of the Mission to a very high hill in Noe Valley…I thought we were doomed to boredom. It took over two years, but we settled in to Noe Valley and now we really identify with the place and have built a solid community around ourselves. I also lost serious weight going up and down the hill with Liko on my back, which I kind of needed to do. I know…two years is a long time. Boobaby will be in college by then. But you’re there, make the best of it.


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