Sleeping (Badly) in the Bed we Made (Badly)

by doodaddy on October 18, 2007

We still "put" Boobaby to sleep, by which I mean that she falls asleep cuddling on a lap, and then we lower her 20-month old sleeping body into the crib ever-so-slowly.


Not the best sleeper. Note the sacrificial baby doll in the foreground.

I know, we’re insane. A baby Boo’s age ought to be able to put herself to sleep. We tried letting her cry it out once, and four minutes later neither of us could stand it. So this is what we do.

Until yesterday, that is. After story and lullaby (I’m in a phase of all-Sinéad O’Connor lullabies at the mo’), Boo very distinctly asked to be put into bed, and, moreover, she wanted to be with the doll she’s named after Buddy Boy.

Great! I thought. She wants to put herself to sleep!

No such luck. She lay down and started pawing at the mattress like a kitten on caffeine. I tell her to close her eyes and she starts beating her stuffed Buddy Boy against the slats of the crib. I stroke her back and she starts to kick. I try the old cuddle and milk routine and she pushes the bottle away and insists on getting back into bed.

I try lullabies. I try disengaging by sitting nearby with my eyes closed. Boo takes no notice; now she’s trying to disembowel the doll.

Finally, I tell her to go to bed, kiss her good-night, and…

I leave the room.

And she cries — not "cries it out," because the crying doesn’t end. But, after ten minutes, her sobbing has faded to where it’s mostly for show. (Stage bawling is one of Boo’s many theatrical talents.) Combined with her other anti-sleep strategies — sticking her legs through the slats, knocking on her own forehead with her knuckles, pulling on her hair — she can effectively remain awake forever.


"Silence is the sound you hear after the baby falls asleep."

So I go in, pick her up, rock her for 45 seconds, and she’s asleep.

It’s frustrating that Boobaby can’t put herself to sleep. I guess it’s encouraging that for two days running she’s asked me to let her give it a try. But I still feel like I’ve failed her by not helping her with this sleep stuff months ago. I’m going to chalk it up to learning: she’s taking steps forward, and so inevitably, she’s going to have a few slips back.

Argh. Developmental reversals are more maddening by far than development that hasn’t happened yet.

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{ 5 comments… read them below or add one }

Dawn October 18, 2007 at 6:58 am

eh… I think you are doing the right thing… yawn …I’m so sleepy….


dead yaya October 18, 2007 at 8:50 am

you know the whole sleeping thing is a loaded issue with parents, but i’ll comment anyway. our boy slept with us from about 3 months to 7 months(he grew out of his bassinet, and i wasn’t ready to have him in another room, yet). then we moved him to his crib, fastforward to 13 months, he’s sleeping thru the night. that’s around the time we stopped breastfeeding as well. we did the cry it out method–it was hard, but took about a week and a half. now at 19 months he sleeps like a champ, 7ish-7ish, wants to go to sleep, and does so without a fight. but the problem now is he’s not napping well and refuses to nap anywhere except his crib or the car. not at grandma’s, not on mom or dad’s shoulder, not in the stoller. argh! sorry for such a long post, but i guess we all have “sleep issues” whether or not they sleep thru the night.


Jennifer October 18, 2007 at 2:34 pm

Amen to the developmental reversals being so maddening! We continue to go thru sleep issues with our son, night awakenings, skipped naps…

I don’t have a solution, I just feel your pain!


2shews October 18, 2007 at 2:35 pm

Yeah, this part sucks. We made this even worse with #1, what with our flagrant co-sleeping and cuddling and such.


Blog Antagonist October 18, 2007 at 6:01 pm

Three words for you: Routine. Routine. Routine. It works, I swear. It won’t work instantly…give it a week or so. But it will work. Our routine used to be Bath, massage with lotion (this REALLY helps relaxe them and get them ready for sleep), story, and then a few minutes of cuddling.

And I had to practically BEAT this into Husband, but no rowdy play (tickling, handing upside down, playing chase, etc.) right before bed. It’s the anti-sleep.

We used a white noise machine too…really helps cut out the background noise.

Good luck. I know how frustrating sleep issues can be.


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