A Public Apology

by doodaddy on October 10, 2007

A couple of weeks ago, my blog friend Aimee the Greeblemonkey posted an interesting “dissenting opinion” on Mile High Mamas about breastfeeding in public. You should read it (and everything she writes, really), but the gist is that she, even as a mom and a supporter of breastfeeding, doesn’t really relish seeing overtly indiscreet breastfeeding in public. I totally agree with everything Aimee had to say:

“Yes, breastfeeding is natural – but so is peeing and picking your nose and clipping your toenails… but there are also times and places and ways to do it, and there may be people around you who are not comfortable with the sight of you doing it.”

However, the whole debate has always bewildered me a little, because even as a stay-at-home dad who’s seen a lot of breastfeeding, I’ve never seen anything irksome. In my comment, I mentioned that

“…my wife breastfeeds in public, and when Boo was younger, even at the table. Boo wasn’t comfortable with a cover, but it honestly wasn’t that hard to be discreet… She wears loose-fitting clothes that more or less block any view from the sides without covering the baby, and baby blocked most of the “view” anyway.”

So, basically, I come down on the side of the reasonable, and I included Aimee in that group. But then earlier today I posted about how I find thongs a lot nastier than any public breastfeeding I’d ever seen, and Aimee took that as an argument against her position, a slap, really. I really didn’t mean it that way, but it’s really clear why it came across that way — I worded it really poorly, and that was stupid.

So in this forum that’s as public as anything I can muster, I just wanted to say that I’m sorry to Aimee. She’s totally right — and I’d be really sad if my clumsiness messed up our long-distance friendship. She was one of the first bloggers to be nice to me, she’s a great writer and photographer, and deserves better than some glib attempt at humor on my dumb blog.

So again, I’m sorry.

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aimee/greeblemonkey October 10, 2007 at 9:18 pm

Aww, wow. That was really nice of you, Dd. I am sorry I took your previous post the wrong way. I appreciate you calling me sensible even though clearly I am not.

And to be clear to the Internets, I am OK with an opposing viewpoint… 🙂 I am just calling this a gray area. And I like how Dd has clarified further in this post about this issue and basically saying “let’s be reasonable about this..”

Like I said in my original post, I do realize I have a different perspective, because my breastfeeding experience was humiliating and forcibly happened in the middle of a NICU… But I guess I am still not down with the boobfest.

Or thongfest for that matter. Yick.

Either way, we’re totally cool, Dd.

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Kelley October 11, 2007 at 2:25 am

Wow, isn’t this whole typing thing difficult. I took it as tongue in cheek dig at Facebook and then Aimee commenting that she either wore thongs or had a belly button ring…..

Never even entered my mind that it could be taken as thinking breastfeeding in public as bad….

Making me rethink my post I am working on right now about some nasty women in the school playground.

I will pop over to aimee’s blog and check out what happened in the NICU…. I was escorted out of a womens restroom (just outside the toilets) for breastfeeding by 2 policemen. Apparently I was indecently exposing myself. In a womens restroom!

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Annie October 11, 2007 at 5:54 am

I had a whole other comment posted here, but then realised that that was fueling this debate right here in your comments. I’ve already blogged on the nursing in public ‘discussion’ so I think I’ll leave it at that lol!

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Spencer at pinkbluecafe.com October 11, 2007 at 10:31 am

Blogging is tough to get the words right, as it is not evident while writing how things may easily be interpreted. Sometimes we just put the wrong words on the page. Whatever the case here, you stepped above a blame game. Very nice apology. Keep the humour also.

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Kelly O October 11, 2007 at 12:51 pm

Wow. That was the kindest, most graceful thing I’ve read in a long time.

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