Comments on: Ouch! The Vicious Cycle of a Parent’s Confidence Crisis http://doodaddy.net/2007/09/27/ouch-the-vicious-cycle-of-a-parents-confidence-crisis/ A San Francisco stay-at-home dad getting the hang of things. Sun, 02 Oct 2011 20:11:36 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Annie http://doodaddy.net/2007/09/27/ouch-the-vicious-cycle-of-a-parents-confidence-crisis/comment-page-1/#comment-1992 Annie Fri, 28 Sep 2007 12:00:15 +0000 http://doodaddy.net/2007/09/27/ouch-the-vicious-cycle-of-a-parents-confidence-crisis/#comment-1992 I don't really have an answer for you - but if it helps her, I'm no good at the settling down for bed thing either. I hand over to my husband in the evening for that because some days by bedtime I've had more than I can take. Maybe it's a Daddy thing? Also, it's great that you are actually able to put into practice that which you've done in your career. I know many parents, teachers and nannies for example who can discipline and do everything 'right' with other people's kids, but have problems applyling all the correct things to their own kids - sad but true. You do great! I don’t really have an answer for you – but if it helps her, I’m no good at the settling down for bed thing either. I hand over to my husband in the evening for that because some days by bedtime I’ve had more than I can take. Maybe it’s a Daddy thing?

Also, it’s great that you are actually able to put into practice that which you’ve done in your career. I know many parents, teachers and nannies for example who can discipline and do everything ‘right’ with other people’s kids, but have problems applyling all the correct things to their own kids – sad but true. You do great!

]]> By: Kelley http://doodaddy.net/2007/09/27/ouch-the-vicious-cycle-of-a-parents-confidence-crisis/comment-page-1/#comment-1990 Kelley Fri, 28 Sep 2007 10:43:46 +0000 http://doodaddy.net/2007/09/27/ouch-the-vicious-cycle-of-a-parents-confidence-crisis/#comment-1990 You feel bad about it cause your wife is in pain. That makes a good husband (I would pat you on the head but THAT would be patronising....) She is in pain cause the world says that as women we are supposed to do the child rearing and work and have a clean house and and and. When our girls were toddlers I worked long hours and my husband stayed home and took the girls to playgroup. It broke my heart EVERY SINGLE TIME the girls would go to him instead of me. When they cried for him instead of me. When they wanted him instead of ME. I am the mother, that is what I am supposed to be and society has conditioned us to believe that. But it was a wonderful experience for my husband to have and he is grateful that he got the opportunity. Go give Working Mom a hug from me and tell her I know how she feels. However this is the small stuff and however much it smarts right now, she has a much more important job looming not too far in the distance.... raising a confident happy teenager. You feel bad about it cause your wife is in pain. That makes a good husband (I would pat you on the head but THAT would be patronising….) She is in pain cause the world says that as women we are supposed to do the child rearing and work and have a clean house and and and.
When our girls were toddlers I worked long hours and my husband stayed home and took the girls to playgroup. It broke my heart EVERY SINGLE TIME the girls would go to him instead of me. When they cried for him instead of me. When they wanted him instead of ME. I am the mother, that is what I am supposed to be and society has conditioned us to believe that.
But it was a wonderful experience for my husband to have and he is grateful that he got the opportunity.
Go give Working Mom a hug from me and tell her I know how she feels. However this is the small stuff and however much it smarts right now, she has a much more important job looming not too far in the distance…. raising a confident happy teenager.

]]> By: Xbox4NappyRash http://doodaddy.net/2007/09/27/ouch-the-vicious-cycle-of-a-parents-confidence-crisis/comment-page-1/#comment-1989 Xbox4NappyRash Fri, 28 Sep 2007 10:35:11 +0000 http://doodaddy.net/2007/09/27/ouch-the-vicious-cycle-of-a-parents-confidence-crisis/#comment-1989 Simply because you are a team, she feels bad, you feel bad. Simply because you are a team, she feels bad, you feel bad.

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