Comments on: Downplaying and… I dunno, "Up-playing?" http://doodaddy.net/2007/08/30/downplaying-and-i-dunno-up-playing/ A San Francisco stay-at-home dad getting the hang of things. Fri, 27 Aug 2010 21:50:44 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: cake http://doodaddy.net/2007/08/30/downplaying-and-i-dunno-up-playing/comment-page-1/#comment-4134 cake Sun, 24 Feb 2008 20:19:34 +0000 http://doodaddy.net/2007/08/30/downplaying-and-i-dunno-up-playing/#comment-4134 i know this is an old post... i feel very guilty being a stay at home mom. not because my partner has to go to work, he loves his job, and ends up being home a lot too. what i feel bad about is parents who want to stay at home with their kids, but can't make it work financially. it is a privilege to be able to give our kids this wonderful time and attention, at the time when they need it the most. i know this is an old post…
i feel very guilty being a stay at home mom. not because my partner has to go to work, he loves his job, and ends up being home a lot too. what i feel bad about is parents who want to stay at home with their kids, but can’t make it work financially. it is a privilege to be able to give our kids this wonderful time and attention, at the time when they need it the most.

]]> By: Kiki http://doodaddy.net/2007/08/30/downplaying-and-i-dunno-up-playing/comment-page-1/#comment-1743 Kiki Fri, 31 Aug 2007 19:47:46 +0000 http://doodaddy.net/2007/08/30/downplaying-and-i-dunno-up-playing/#comment-1743 I just found your blog through Manda's! And yes, I feel guilty sometimes. I was a soldier 12 years and only have been doing the SAHM thing for 4 years, but I love it and I feel guilty! I have 4 kids, and no, it doesn't get easier! Just more interesting! But the guilt gets less because I KNOW I work harder than my husband!! <hr /><em>Man, with four, I *bet* you do, unless he works three jobs. Wow. Someday... -- Dd.</em> I just found your blog through Manda’s! And yes, I feel guilty sometimes. I was a soldier 12 years and only have been doing the SAHM thing for 4 years, but I love it and I feel guilty! I have 4 kids, and no, it doesn’t get easier! Just more interesting! But the guilt gets less because I KNOW I work harder than my husband!!

Man, with four, I *bet* you do, unless he works three jobs. Wow. Someday… — Dd.

]]> By: alysianfields http://doodaddy.net/2007/08/30/downplaying-and-i-dunno-up-playing/comment-page-1/#comment-1727 alysianfields Fri, 31 Aug 2007 03:37:38 +0000 http://doodaddy.net/2007/08/30/downplaying-and-i-dunno-up-playing/#comment-1727 i'm a sahm, and i have to say, sometimes i do feel guilty. mostly because i know my huz really, <i>really</i> hates his job. i mean, a lot. so, those days when cheeky and i go to the park and have a lovely day in the sun and wind and gorgeous-ness, i tend to downplay the niceness, and up-play the fact that the boy wouldn't nap. but, in all reality, i think my huz knows what really goes on. and, he knows somedays i would love to switch jobs with him, crappy job be damned! <hr><em>Yeah, I know -- the hard days will come, and then I'll feel less guilty. I take the overnight wakeups, so that makes things feel more even, too. And even though Working Mom doesn't hate her job -- sometimes she loves it -- it is still a job. Hanging out with a happy baby is better. Dd. </em> i’m a sahm, and i have to say, sometimes i do feel guilty. mostly because i know my huz really, really hates his job. i mean, a lot. so, those days when cheeky and i go to the park and have a lovely day in the sun and wind and gorgeous-ness, i tend to downplay the niceness, and up-play the fact that the boy wouldn’t nap. but, in all reality, i think my huz knows what really goes on. and, he knows somedays i would love to switch jobs with him, crappy job be damned!

Yeah, I know — the hard days will come, and then I’ll feel less guilty. I take the overnight wakeups, so that makes things feel more even, too. And even though Working Mom doesn’t hate her job — sometimes she loves it — it is still a job. Hanging out with a happy baby is better.

Dd.

]]> By: Johnny http://doodaddy.net/2007/08/30/downplaying-and-i-dunno-up-playing/comment-page-1/#comment-1726 Johnny Fri, 31 Aug 2007 03:31:55 +0000 http://doodaddy.net/2007/08/30/downplaying-and-i-dunno-up-playing/#comment-1726 Hello, I am a stay-at-home dad and just ran across your blog. Sometimes I do feel a little guilty, but I try not to think too much about it. If you want my opinion, I think it has to do with the tough stuff we were taught as children. Ask me in 7 months if it's easier with two. My wonderful daughter is almost 2 and we are at about 12 weeks on the second. <hr><em>I sometimes wonder if I'd be better off if I *had* learned some of the tough stuff as a boy. I was raised by a single mom -- who became a psychologist, no less! -- so I'm actually having to re-learn some of the basics, like playing catch and letting Boo fall on her own without being caught. Congrats on #2 -- keep me posted! --Dd. </em> Hello, I am a stay-at-home dad and just ran across your blog.

Sometimes I do feel a little guilty, but I try not to think too much about it. If you want my opinion, I think it has to do with the tough stuff we were taught as children.

Ask me in 7 months if it’s easier with two. My wonderful daughter is almost 2 and we are at about 12 weeks on the second.

I sometimes wonder if I’d be better off if I *had* learned some of the tough stuff as a boy. I was raised by a single mom — who became a psychologist, no less! — so I’m actually having to re-learn some of the basics, like playing catch and letting Boo fall on her own without being caught.

Congrats on #2 — keep me posted!

–Dd.

]]> By: Manda http://doodaddy.net/2007/08/30/downplaying-and-i-dunno-up-playing/comment-page-1/#comment-1720 Manda Fri, 31 Aug 2007 01:08:28 +0000 http://doodaddy.net/2007/08/30/downplaying-and-i-dunno-up-playing/#comment-1720 "rationalizing away the guilt I feel for depending on my wife to enable me to do this." --> Why would you feel guilt? My husband was a stay at home dad for the first 2 years of our oldest's life and always told me how he felt guilty - yet now that our oldest is 6 years old he says it was the best 2 year of his life and the best job he's ever had, hands down. Nothing is ever easier when you add more bodies to the picture.. LoL. We're a chaotic family of 5 - somehow I can't figure out how I manage day to day, but we do. =0) Cheer up - I LOVE reading your blog. You're a wonderful "DooDaddy". <hr /><em>Hey, thanks for the vote of confidence! The guilt only comes on those days when things seem so easy and wonderful --- which is most days, these days. But I'll try to fight it off and just enjoy my un-frikkin-believable great job! -- Dd.</em> “rationalizing away the guilt I feel for depending on my wife to enable me to do this.” –> Why would you feel guilt? My husband was a stay at home dad for the first 2 years of our oldest’s life and always told me how he felt guilty – yet now that our oldest is 6 years old he says it was the best 2 year of his life and the best job he’s ever had, hands down. Nothing is ever easier when you add more bodies to the picture.. LoL. We’re a chaotic family of 5 – somehow I can’t figure out how I manage day to day, but we do. =0) Cheer up – I LOVE reading your blog. You’re a wonderful “DooDaddy”.

Hey, thanks for the vote of confidence! The guilt only comes on those days when things seem so easy and wonderful — which is most days, these days. But I’ll try to fight it off and just enjoy my un-frikkin-believable great job! — Dd.

]]> By: Dawn http://doodaddy.net/2007/08/30/downplaying-and-i-dunno-up-playing/comment-page-1/#comment-1718 Dawn Fri, 31 Aug 2007 00:27:42 +0000 http://doodaddy.net/2007/08/30/downplaying-and-i-dunno-up-playing/#comment-1718 1) Yes 2) I don't want to find out :) <hr /><em>Well, you're still in the first year and all. Sometimes I think a few more tykes would justify my job a bit! Maybe I should open a daycare. --Dd.</em> 1) Yes
2) I don’t want to find out
:)

Well, you’re still in the first year and all. Sometimes I think a few more tykes would justify my job a bit! Maybe I should open a daycare. –Dd.

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