Too Disturbing For Words. But I’ll Try.

by doodaddy on May 22, 2007

Working Mom had a dream early Sunday morning, and just told me about it. Apparently, in this dream, I was dying, nearly dead. WM turned to me and told me how sad it would be for Boobaby not to have a father.

“No,” I said in the dream. “Boo can’t live without me. After I’m dead, you’ll have to kill her and put her with me.”

So she did. In the dream, I die, my wife kills the baby and stuffs her into my body.

Needless to say, WM was pretty disturbed by this dream and all its implications… So am I.

Is it that…

  • WM feels that she can’t keep Boo alive without me?
    • That I have taken her place as the “bearer” of the baby?
      • That she’d rather if I were out of the picture?

None of the above, necessarily, I know. Dreams don’t denote reality, they’re an expression of our deepest fears or maybe just stuff we need to let go of. I certainly have had a few “Oh-my-god” dreams since becoming a parent — it’s a natural artifact of the tremendous level of responsibility placed on us as parents. With the great joy comes a potential for great loss, and fear of loss expresses itself in dreams.

It doesn’t signify anything more, right?


Geez, am I ever creeped out.

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{ 6 comments… read them below or add one }

LifeAsIKnowIt May 22, 2007 at 1:17 pm

Oooh, that IS a creepy dream.

Dreams can be (ARE) weird, scrambled thoughts from our head. Who knows what they really mean. If anything.

Nothing to worry about…but I’d keep one eye open for the next few nights if I were you 😉


HomeGrownLife May 22, 2007 at 6:40 pm

Who knows why we dream what we dream (very insightful, right?). All I know is that my dreams/thoughts have always been more vivid when my hormones are running high (mainly pregnancy)- I’m so sure you were really interested in my hormones and the effect on my home life!!! I don’t know if my poor husband is usually confused or just plain scared when I share these dreams with him (you’re not alone here, but he listens and that’s what’s important!).


Ann Marie May 23, 2007 at 5:33 am

what is wrong with us!!! You are on the OTHER SIDE of the country we should NOT both be posting about dreams on the same day!

My dead friend dropped by in mine and told me he had a note to pick up my son today when he got home from school… umm NO YOU DON’T. GO AWAY!!


doodaddy May 23, 2007 at 5:23 pm

Life As I…~I pretty much have one eye open all the time anyway; because of the weaning, I’m doing all the late-night wakeups, and also because of the weaning (I think), there are usually 2 or 3… sometimes more. I haven’t gotten more than 4 hours uninterrupted sleep for a week or so! I should be the one getting weird dreams!

Home Grown~Yeah, I think hormones might be involved… WM’s trying to wean *and* we’re trying to get pregnant so she’s on some traditional Chinese herbs. But still…

Ann Marie~ I have moments like that… I’ll be writing a post and I see the same theme on someone else’s blog! Usually it’s Cry It Out for me…

Maybe it’s like a chain letter. Don’t break the chain! Post about doughnuts today!


chicago pop May 25, 2007 at 1:02 pm

I might be able to say something helpful if I had had the pleasure of a dream at anytime in the last four months…at least you’re getting some sleep. But indeed, that was an odd one and would reward some deep analysis. Sounds like your wife is loyal, at the very least.


doodaddy May 26, 2007 at 2:11 pm

Hey, chicago… Actually, I’m sort of getting the worst of both worlds… *I’m* getting hardly any sleep and my *wife* reports her horrible dreams to me later. Not exactly Homeric tragedy in the scheme of things, but still…

At least I got to sleep in today! Yay for weekends!


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