Comments on: Maybe I’m Not That Guy Anymore

By: doodaddy

doodaddy — Fri, 11 May 2007 04:08:31 +0000

Yeah, I know I shouldn’t try to “fix” anything… the intended irony was that although we guys might know that, we still have that impulse. I just didn’t feel I was giving her my full attention yesterday, but like I said later, I think we straightened it up today, so all is well.

Sigh. It’s hard to be there for other people when you’re so incredibly there for your kids!

By: Blog Antagonist

Blog Antagonist — Fri, 11 May 2007 03:36:39 +0000

Here’s a secret…women don’t want you to guys to fix stuff for us. We don’t want you to offer solutions. If we want help figuring something out, we’ll ask, but otherwise all we want is for you to listen and offer sympathy and we want to feel like someone gives a shit. That’s all. .

And that’s exactly what you gave her. You are still that guy.

By: doodaddy

doodaddy — Fri, 11 May 2007 02:52:41 +0000

Thanks, all, and you’re right… we change, and change is good and important and all. This is just something I’d like not to lose about myself.

I made up for it today with my friend, though, which made me feel better. I’ve still got good buddy instincts — they just takes a little longer to be expressed.

By: twinbabiesdad

twinbabiesdad — Thu, 10 May 2007 16:23:13 +0000

DD,
I have a lot of thoughts about this post, ya know, the fix it dream, but no time to sort them out and make them coherent.
So briefly – I’m not “That Guy” anymore either. My “That Guy” is slightly different in the details, but the feelings of noticing his loss are similar. SUCKS.
BUT, most of the time, I like This Guy, the parent, flawed partner, etc.
And, I don’t know you, but I like you too.

By: Ann Marie

Ann Marie — Thu, 10 May 2007 11:18:44 +0000

ahh sweetie.. do we EVER meet our own expectations of anything? I know I don’t most of the time. I am constantly thinking I could have done better!

but it sounds like to me you did what you could at the time. It wasn’t like you could say .. lookie here boobaby.. Park Buddy has a problem.. sit there and don’t bother us, don’t run off and dont get hurt for the next two hours so she can talk.. k?

See that just wouldn’t work.. you did exactly waht you could at the time and that is what makes a friend!!!