Comments on: I can only be your friend if my wife meets you first.

By: Doodaddy » Freeze Frame! Or, The Doodaddy Redemption

Doodaddy » Freeze Frame! Or, The Doodaddy Redemption — Fri, 28 Sep 2007 09:57:21 +0000

[...] day again at the playground — that’s the dads’ group I’ve written about a few times. As usual, some were ZOPs (”zoned-out parents”), talking on their phones or exclusively [...]

By: Doodaddy » Learn. Regress. Repeat.

Doodaddy » Learn. Regress. Repeat. — Mon, 25 Jun 2007 23:31:02 +0000

[...] was doing so well with this SAHD thing. I got over not being invited on play dates. I made friends. I even started getting along with the Dad’s Group Dads, a [...]

By: doodaddy

doodaddy — Fri, 20 Apr 2007 16:07:58 +0000

@Heather~ Yep, that sums it up. I’ve done some classes, which is sort of like playgroup, but not really…

See ya!

Dd.

By: Heather

Heather — Fri, 20 Apr 2007 01:55:00 +0000

Very interesting post! I think SAHD’s are cool but I can imagine it would be hard to find a playgroup you would feel comfortable with. It’s hard enough when your a mom with a bunch of other moms.

By: Rebecca James

Rebecca James — Thu, 19 Apr 2007 07:39:39 +0000

no no – the lack of makeup was MY problem.

I’m sure you had your makeup on. As you should. I really hate these blokes that get around without it – they should really put in more effort! Tsk tsk

By: doodaddy

doodaddy — Thu, 19 Apr 2007 06:50:29 +0000

Hey, Rebecca. Glad you made it over here!

I don’t know where you get the idea that my face is free of makeup, though. A little light foundation, maybe a hint of mascara…

See ya around!

Dd.

By: Rebecca James

Rebecca James — Thu, 19 Apr 2007 06:06:37 +0000

Hi doodaddy,

I followed the link here from moodswingingmommy’s blog and am already hooked!

Can’t wait to get the ‘at home’ perspective from the other side.

And, yes, I have sometimes felt shunned in mother’s groups too – I don’t think you need only be a man – it is that horrid cliquey schoolgirly type thing where you just ignore the new person – I think my hair was always too messy and my face too free of makeup. Although in your case it’s no doubt a bit more complicated – in fact worse – you’d be much more alien and frightening in such a setting!

By: doodaddy

doodaddy — Thu, 19 Apr 2007 03:49:50 +0000

@jennifer~ Thanks for the vote of confidence! It just plain took me a long time, and I’m still at that point of having one friend whom I see outside the playground. When she’s busy (or on her babysitter day, Friday), I’m on my own.

Glad you’re enjoying the blog!

@aimee/greeblemonkey~ I know, stupid work. I wish we’d all win the lottery so we just didn’t have to!

Tell him hi for me.

By: doodaddy

doodaddy — Thu, 19 Apr 2007 03:42:51 +0000

Aw, Rachael, you know there’s almost nothing I love MORE than talking!

And just so I know what you’re suggesting: I should invite some childless, perhaps single young ladies over to hang out with me & the baby during the day while Working Mom is at work? Not sure that would fill the bill, either!

Seriously, though, I like my childless friends a lot — the big attraction to stay-at-home parents is that, well, they’re available during the day. (There’s a certain level of “They get it”, too, of course, but I can dispense with that pretty easily!)

Thanks for linking me. We’ll see what the derbyites make of me!

Dd.

By: Strollerderby : Stay at Home Dads Shunned at PlayGroup?

Strollerderby : Stay at Home Dads Shunned at PlayGroup? — Thu, 19 Apr 2007 02:25:57 +0000

[...] Daddy Blogger Doodaddy has a thought-provoking post about the difficulties of creating a play group and community when one is a stay-at-home-dad. … I sympathize with his plight, but not because he’s a dad. As a fellow playgroup reject (albeit by choice), I can understand his frustration. … Doodaddy may find that if he were invited to join the club, he wouldn’t really enjoy it that much anyway. [...]