Comments on: I can’t call my girlfriend up for drinks http://doodaddy.net/2007/04/07/i-cant-call-my-girlfriend-up-for-drinks/ A San Francisco stay-at-home dad getting the hang of things. Sun, 02 Oct 2011 20:11:36 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Doodaddy » My Wife is Kicking Me Out* http://doodaddy.net/2007/04/07/i-cant-call-my-girlfriend-up-for-drinks/comment-page-1/#comment-624 Doodaddy » My Wife is Kicking Me Out* Fri, 13 Jul 2007 13:37:16 +0000 http://doodaddy.net/?p=80#comment-624 [...] the question is… where do I go? I can’t take Park Buddy out for drinks, ’cause she’s a girl. The library, maybe? Maybe it’s time to find a bagel place [...] [...] the question is… where do I go? I can’t take Park Buddy out for drinks, ’cause she’s a girl. The library, maybe? Maybe it’s time to find a bagel place [...]

]]> By: doodaddy http://doodaddy.net/2007/04/07/i-cant-call-my-girlfriend-up-for-drinks/comment-page-1/#comment-78 doodaddy Wed, 11 Apr 2007 22:29:42 +0000 http://doodaddy.net/?p=80#comment-78 Thanks, all! First of all, <a href="http://doodaddy.net/2007/04/11/warning-flying-can-be-dangerous-for-stay-at-home-dad-families/" rel="nofollow">I've been away</a> at the grandfolks' and out of Internet range, so sorry for not getting my responses out sooner! @Antagonist: Too bad you don't live here. The neighborhood couldn't care less about whom I have coffee with. Not so sure about the spouses, though. @aimee: How long was Bryan a SAHD? Does he blog? He sounds like a cool guy, and I'm not really a guy's guy. @Sarah: Well, first of all, they still could be twins! There's been a bit of a biracial-twins-with-different-pigmentation meme around the blogosphere for a while: <a href="http://daddytypes.com/2006/02/27/one_is_black_and_one_is_white_lifes_an_eskimo_pie_lets_take_a_bite.php" rel="nofollow">check this out</a> for one, or just google "biracial twins." And yes, my park buddy and I get mistaken for a couple fairly often, but we just let it slide. It's just frustrating (sometimes) that we can't easily see each other socially without the kids. (On the other hand, with young kids we basically have no social lives apart from them, so it's not that big an issue!) Thanks, all! First of all, I’ve been away at the grandfolks’ and out of Internet range, so sorry for not getting my responses out sooner!

@Antagonist: Too bad you don’t live here. The neighborhood couldn’t care less about whom I have coffee with. Not so sure about the spouses, though.

@aimee: How long was Bryan a SAHD? Does he blog? He sounds like a cool guy, and I’m not really a guy’s guy.

@Sarah: Well, first of all, they still could be twins! There’s been a bit of a biracial-twins-with-different-pigmentation meme around the blogosphere for a while: check this out for one, or just google “biracial twins.” And yes, my park buddy and I get mistaken for a couple fairly often, but we just let it slide. It’s just frustrating (sometimes) that we can’t easily see each other socially without the kids. (On the other hand, with young kids we basically have no social lives apart from them, so it’s not that big an issue!)

]]> By: Sarah http://doodaddy.net/2007/04/07/i-cant-call-my-girlfriend-up-for-drinks/comment-page-1/#comment-79 Sarah Wed, 11 Apr 2007 12:18:03 +0000 http://doodaddy.net/?p=80#comment-79 That is hard. Very good friends of ours had a babe around the same time as we did. The daddy was home for a while and we would take the babies for walks and get together sometimes. People were always stopping us to ask if the babies were twins. Maybe that might have been reasonable except my baby is as white and caucasian as they come and the daddy friend is asian with an asian looking baby. That would have been a pretty neat trick! People can be so stupid...I really felt like the questioning was really more of a question as to why we were out together at the park with our babies. That is hard. Very good friends of ours had a babe around the same time as we did. The daddy was home for a while and we would take the babies for walks and get together sometimes. People were always stopping us to ask if the babies were twins. Maybe that might have been reasonable except my baby is as white and caucasian as they come and the daddy friend is asian with an asian looking baby. That would have been a pretty neat trick!

People can be so stupid…I really felt like the questioning was really more of a question as to why we were out together at the park with our babies.

]]> By: aimee/greeblemonkey http://doodaddy.net/2007/04/07/i-cant-call-my-girlfriend-up-for-drinks/comment-page-1/#comment-81 aimee/greeblemonkey Sat, 07 Apr 2007 21:26:20 +0000 http://doodaddy.net/?p=80#comment-81 Bryan struggled with this issue too. You is nots alone. Bryan struggled with this issue too. You is nots alone.

]]> By: Blog Antagonist http://doodaddy.net/2007/04/07/i-cant-call-my-girlfriend-up-for-drinks/comment-page-1/#comment-80 Blog Antagonist Sat, 07 Apr 2007 20:02:37 +0000 http://doodaddy.net/?p=80#comment-80 A while back, I had a huge quandry about asking one of the neighborhood dads over for coffee. He work 3-11 and stays at home during the day. We had chatted at the bus stop many times, and I found him very likeable. Since most women irritate me, I thought it might be nice to strike up a friendship with him. But it was so...unconventional, that I hesitated. And stewed. And contemplated. I never did invite him over and our relationship remained very superficial. It's a good thing too, because I found out through some unrelated issues, that he is really quite an asshole. But that's not the point. The point, is, I can relate to your problem. I don't have many girlfriends, and it would look very weird for me to be fraternizing with married men in my home, during the day when my husband isn't home. I could handle it, but the neighborhood surely couldn't. That sucks, doesn't it? A while back, I had a huge quandry about asking one of the neighborhood dads over for coffee. He work 3-11 and stays at home during the day. We had chatted at the bus stop many times, and I found him very likeable. Since most women irritate me, I thought it might be nice to strike up a friendship with him. But it was so…unconventional, that I hesitated. And stewed. And contemplated.

I never did invite him over and our relationship remained very superficial. It’s a good thing too, because I found out through some unrelated issues, that he is really quite an asshole. But that’s not the point.

The point, is, I can relate to your problem. I don’t have many girlfriends, and it would look very weird for me to be fraternizing with married men in my home, during the day when my husband isn’t home.

I could handle it, but the neighborhood surely couldn’t.

That sucks, doesn’t it?

]]>