Comments on: Cold shoulder, anyone? http://doodaddy.net/2007/03/02/cold-shoulder-anyone/ A San Francisco stay-at-home dad getting the hang of things. Fri, 30 Jul 2010 07:49:55 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Doodaddy » Happy Birthday, Non-Schmoozing Park Buddy! http://doodaddy.net/2007/03/02/cold-shoulder-anyone/comment-page-1/#comment-7224 Doodaddy » Happy Birthday, Non-Schmoozing Park Buddy! Mon, 08 Dec 2008 13:25:27 +0000 http://doodaddy.net/?p=35#comment-7224 [...] that I’ve shown myself to be a little judgmental about weird-ass parenting behavior. (Just once. Or twice. Or thirty-seven times.) How am I going to handle enforced relationships with people [...] [...] that I’ve shown myself to be a little judgmental about weird-ass parenting behavior. (Just once. Or twice. Or thirty-seven times.) How am I going to handle enforced relationships with people [...]

]]> By: Doodaddy » 10 Ways to Get the Kids to Love You: What it’s like to be a stay-at-home dad, Answer 7. http://doodaddy.net/2007/03/02/cold-shoulder-anyone/comment-page-1/#comment-7051 Doodaddy » 10 Ways to Get the Kids to Love You: What it’s like to be a stay-at-home dad, Answer 7. Mon, 17 Nov 2008 17:44:22 +0000 http://doodaddy.net/?p=35#comment-7051 [...] complain about being too noticed, not noticed enough, and noticed in the wrong way. None of that matters even a little bit, though, because kids — [...] [...] complain about being too noticed, not noticed enough, and noticed in the wrong way. None of that matters even a little bit, though, because kids — [...]

]]> By: Doodaddy » Headphone Granny http://doodaddy.net/2007/03/02/cold-shoulder-anyone/comment-page-1/#comment-4769 Doodaddy » Headphone Granny Mon, 14 Apr 2008 07:55:56 +0000 http://doodaddy.net/?p=35#comment-4769 [...] with my discoveries over the two years that city parks have been like a second home to me. Remember The Ignorer? The Scantinanny? The Dad Who Scams on Scantinannies? The Mommy Racist? The list goes on and [...] [...] with my discoveries over the two years that city parks have been like a second home to me. Remember The Ignorer? The Scantinanny? The Dad Who Scams on Scantinannies? The Mommy Racist? The list goes on and [...]

]]> By: Doodaddy » What it’s like to be a stay-at-home dad? Answer 3: Scrutinized. http://doodaddy.net/2007/03/02/cold-shoulder-anyone/comment-page-1/#comment-2100 Doodaddy » What it’s like to be a stay-at-home dad? Answer 3: Scrutinized. Fri, 12 Oct 2007 08:58:01 +0000 http://doodaddy.net/?p=35#comment-2100 [...] it’s not just my wife. I’ve already written a lot about how I have suffered the concerned glares of playground moms. More than uninformed strangers, [...] [...] it’s not just my wife. I’ve already written a lot about how I have suffered the concerned glares of playground moms. More than uninformed strangers, [...]

]]> By: doodaddy http://doodaddy.net/2007/03/02/cold-shoulder-anyone/comment-page-1/#comment-9 doodaddy Wed, 11 Apr 2007 22:16:08 +0000 http://doodaddy.net/?p=35#comment-9 Oh, lindy, you're so baaaad! No, seriously, there are enough "cool" folks around now that I'm never too ostracized. Those early months, though, until I was more of a "known quantity" at the park -- whew! I've always tried to live according to something I read when I was about 11: "You could see that they were ready to be friends with anyone who was friendly and didn't give a fig for anyone who wasn't." That's who I've always tried (not always successfully!) to be! <i>P.S.: TEN POINTS if you can remember the source of that quote!</i> Oh, lindy, you’re so baaaad! No, seriously, there are enough “cool” folks around now that I’m never too ostracized. Those early months, though, until I was more of a “known quantity” at the park — whew!

I’ve always tried to live according to something I read when I was about 11: “You could see that they were ready to be friends with anyone who was friendly and didn’t give a fig for anyone who wasn’t.”

That’s who I’ve always tried (not always successfully!) to be!

P.S.: TEN POINTS if you can remember the source of that quote!

]]> By: Lindyloo http://doodaddy.net/2007/03/02/cold-shoulder-anyone/comment-page-1/#comment-8 Lindyloo Wed, 11 Apr 2007 21:18:55 +0000 http://doodaddy.net/?p=35#comment-8 Just found your blog and had to comment. I don't think it's just a dad thing. I had it happen in a baby group I went to. It's a cliquey thing. They probably did it in HS too. If you're a SAHD or your not wearing the cool/yummy/sporty mummy outfit they just freeze you out. It's pretty brutal. I kept at it as I too pride myself in being inclusive and wasn't going to be beaten by these women. Unfortunatly I was. I decided I wasn't going to pay money to feel like crap. I've bumped into them in different baby groups and if they're alone and have no one else to talk to they come over and chat. Being the nasty biotch that I am I just look at them and walk away. BAD, I know I just can't help it. Just found your blog and had to comment. I don’t think it’s just a dad thing. I had it happen in a baby group I went to. It’s a cliquey thing. They probably did it in HS too. If you’re a SAHD or your not wearing the cool/yummy/sporty mummy outfit they just freeze you out. It’s pretty brutal. I kept at it as I too pride myself in being inclusive and wasn’t going to be beaten by these women. Unfortunatly I was. I decided I wasn’t going to pay money to feel like crap. I’ve bumped into them in different baby groups and if they’re alone and have no one else to talk to they come over and chat. Being the nasty biotch that I am I just look at them and walk away. BAD, I know I just can’t help it.

]]> By: doodaddy http://doodaddy.net/2007/03/02/cold-shoulder-anyone/comment-page-1/#comment-7 doodaddy Wed, 07 Mar 2007 21:07:17 +0000 http://doodaddy.net/?p=35#comment-7 The odd thing to me is how <i>actively</i> friendly I am, and I still get this attitude. I suppose this sort of thing happens with "outsiders" in any situation: we have to try doubly hard to get the same level of respect. The odd thing to me is how actively friendly I am, and I still get this attitude. I suppose this sort of thing happens with “outsiders” in any situation: we have to try doubly hard to get the same level of respect.

]]> By: Pat http://doodaddy.net/2007/03/02/cold-shoulder-anyone/comment-page-1/#comment-6 Pat Wed, 07 Mar 2007 17:07:18 +0000 http://doodaddy.net/?p=35#comment-6 I 100% agree with you. I have been at home with my two kids for almost two years and other Moms can be rude. My wife came with me to drop my son off at pre-school last month. Before I had a chance to take my hat and gloves off, she was in a conversation with these two other mothers that hadn't given me the time of day. I mentioned it to my wife and she just assumed that they were always that friendly. No such luck. I 100% agree with you. I have been at home with my two kids for almost two years and other Moms can be rude. My wife came with me to drop my son off at pre-school last month. Before I had a chance to take my hat and gloves off, she was in a conversation with these two other mothers that hadn’t given me the time of day. I mentioned it to my wife and she just assumed that they were always that friendly. No such luck.

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